When Boundaries Are Challenged
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Hi dear Reader I want to share a small dating scenario that many women will recognize and relate to. I’ve seen this come up not only in my own life, but also in conversations and groups I’ve been part of. What I want to clarify here is not about blaming the other person, but about understanding the process of setting clear boundaries and, just as importantly, noticing how others respond to them — and how we respond to ourselves in those moments. In this particular situation, I matched with someone on a dating app. We exchanged a few messages, and he suggested moving off the app. He shared his number. In response, I shared my Google number. I use it intentionally and for safety, and I usually don’t give out my personal number until I meet someone in person. He texted me and asked why I was using that number. I explained my reasoning clearly and calmly. Instead of accepting that boundary, he continued to challenge it. He told me he was an honest man and that honesty was important for building trust. I acknowledged what he said and shared that I was looking forward to getting to know him. Soon after, he told me he was a romantic guy and wanted to ask me out on a date. His text said: “I would like to plan a dinner date.” As soon as I read that message, I felt pressure in my body. Be well. Warmly, Gayane Kulikyan |
Gayane Kulikyan, MA
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