Softening Your Armor
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Do you ever notice how armored you tend to be? That subtle sense of being separate from everyone else—feeling different, unique, somehow outside the circle? I used to live in that space often. I remember, about a decade ago, a coach telling me, “I feel you standing on an island.” He was using his felt sense to perceive me energetically. My armor served me well. It preserved my way of being and seeing the world. But it also felt lonely. The wall of protection leaves little room for connection. In fact, connection can feel threatening when, deep down, there’s a belief that says: “If they see the real me, they might reject me.” “They won’t understand—I’m too different.” “I am not worthy of connection.” When those stories run your life, belonging feels out of reach. Connection and belonging require openness—an invitation for another’s acceptance, love, and presence to touch us. Yes, we can cultivate love from within, but to feel it fully, we must also open to the possibility of being received—and to the risk of not being. We can’t control how others will respond. That’s not a personal defect—it’s simply misalignment. And if you still feel the presence of your armor, start by thanking it. Now, as you soften, you might whisper to it: “You’ve done your job beautifully. It’s safe for me to let love in now.” If you desire to experience greater fulfillment and meaning in your life, I invite you to set up an introductory call with me to get started! Be well. Warmly, Gayane Kulikyan |
Gayane Kulikyan, MA
Helping you release stress, so you can find your inner peace and fulfillment.
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